Saving lives: The importance of open conversations

by Bhargav R

In the hushed corners of our lives, a subject remains elusive — a matter rarely addressed, concealed in the depths of silence. It’s the deeply sensitive issue of suicide, an unspoken force that profoundly impacts lives. Paired with it is depression, a formidable adversary in the shadows. Join us as we delve into these intricate topics, seeking understanding, compassion, and the fiery strength of candid conversations.

There are many ways to provide help if you’re concerned about someone who might be at risk of suicide. The first crucial step is to engage in a conversation with them. It’s absolutely fine to inquire if someone is experiencing thoughts of suicide, as this direct approach can potentially save their life. It’s important to look out for signs of depression and change in their behaviour. If you know the person well, you can often detect if they’re exhibiting signs of significant distress, such as distancing themselves from others, being mentally exhausted, or showing a lack of interest in things they used to love. Research shows that asking someone about suicidal thoughts can be a protective measure.

We should be comfortable in asking someone, “Are you thinking about suicide?” By directly talking about the issue, we allow them to openly discuss their feelings and reassure them that they are not a burden. If someone opens to you about having suicidal thoughts, it’s crucial to take their words seriously and make an effort to listen attentively without distractions. You don’t need to have the answers to their problems. Just listening and showing understanding can make a significant difference. Having a follow-up conversation with them will help them understand that you care about them, and they feel more valued.

Small gestures can allow you to be there for someone dealing with suicidal thoughts or recovering from a suicidal attempt. Many individuals who have experienced such feelings express relief when they can openly discuss their experiences. It’s important to encourage them to seek professional help and make them understand it is completely fine to seek help.

Suicide impacts individuals of all age groups. The data of suicide or self-inflicted injury patients attended to by 108 ambulances shows that the highest number of suicide cases in the last five years was in 2022.Over 770 cases has been recorded by the end of the year

A few Warning Signs of Suicide include:

1. Frequent discussions or written expressions about death, dying, or suicide.

2. Statements conveying feelings of hopelessness, helplessness, or worthlessness.

3. Verbalizing a lack of motivation for living and a sense of purposelessness, such as phrases like “Life would be better without me” or “I wish I weren’t here.”

4. Escalating alcohol and/or drug consumption.

5. Isolation from social circles, family, and the community.

6. Engaging in impulsive or risky behaviours seemingly without consideration.

7. Noticeable and abrupt shifts in mood.

8. Expressing a sense of being trapped or perceiving oneself as a burden to others.

What can we do:

If you’re worried about someone, don’t hesitate to ask them directly if they are contemplating suicide. Research indicates that inquiring about suicidal thoughts neither raises the risk of them actually taking their own life nor intensifies those thoughts.

1. Offer your support by being available, whether it’s through phone conversations or face-to-face meetings.

2. Take precautions to ensure their safety by limiting access to potentially lethal methods for individuals at risk.

3. Assist them in establishing connections with ongoing sources of support.

4. Don’t forget to follow up by giving them a call, visiting them, or sending a text to let them know you’re still there for them.

As we wrap up our discussion on suicide and depression it’s essential to remember the global significance of World Suicide Prevention Day, observed annually on September 10th. It’s a day to raise awareness, foster understanding, and provide support. By talking openly and showing compassion, we make a difference every day. Together, we can create a world where hope thrives, and every life is valued and fought for.